Happy Friday everyone! Today I’m sharing a lovely wedding with an important message from beautiful bride Danelle. This gorgeous couple married at Helmingham Hall Gardens at the beginning of autumn, and their day is everything they could have dreamed of: with pretty and romantic styling touches, a stunning dress, pretty bridesmaids and a venue to die for! The pictures by our lovely friend and English Wedding member Ayshea Goldberg capture the key moments and details beautifully – and I love how blissfully happy these two look when they’re together!
Something I rarely hear about – and I actually wish we were able to talk about this more on wedding blogs – is anxiety. The build up to a wedding is huge, and Danelle has very bravely shared her experience of feeling overwhelmed with anxiety on the big day. I’m sure she’s not alone in feeling this way, and I would urge you to look for help if your own feelings of anxiety are clouding your wedding journey. There’s a lovely article on Ayshea Goldberg’s blog about dealing with anxiety on your wedding day. Danelle – you are beautiful and brave, and we’re so grateful to you for sharing your gorgeous day on English Wedding today!
Wedding photographer’s website:
I used Google to search for wedding photographers, then I shortlisted us about 5 different photographers who had great reviews & who actually shared their prices (a lot of people didn’t want to share this online). We had planned to meet all of them but once we met Ayshea there was no doubt about it! There was definitely no need to see anyone else, we both loved her from the moment we met her.
We absolutely made the right decision. So many of our guests have said since that they didn’t even realise she was there! Ayshea made us feel so comfortable and was patient with us! Would pick her 100 times again!
Ayshea invited us to her office to view the wedding photos. We got comfy on her sofa and she played a video of our photos with lovely music to go with them! I won’t forget the first time we saw them. It was a wow moment! P.s. homemade flapjacks were also on offer!!
Lovely Ayshea Goldberg is a recommended wedding photographer at Helmingham Hall Gardens
We went for a rose gold colour theme. Over the last year I have become pretty obsessed with rose gold & copper decor. Our house is full of it! I could not have chosen better for the wedding theme!
We had a marquee wedding, so with the amazing views and beautiful lights not a lot was needed. I work with a lady who does floristry on the side as a hobby, and will only do flowers for friends. We had pink gerbera in mixed vases & jars. They were beautiful and the flowers, candles and little touches without a doubt finished the whole look off.
We had a church wedding at St Mary’s Church in Earl Stonham & reception at Helmingham Hall.
The church meant so much to us, it’s the family church for both our families, my uncle is buried there and adams parents got married there!! Was meant to be!
Helmingham Hall, we often work over the summer here helping with events and weddings, so safe to say we are pretty familiar with the place. This venue really is what wedding dreams are made of, picture perfect and no doubt a photographers dream!
Can you describe your wedding in fewer than 10 words?
All that mattered was marrying my best friend.
Where did you find your suppliers? (Blogs, magazines, recommendations?)
I am a very lucky lady & my best friend (maid of honour) is the events manager at Helmingham Hall. So I must say I didn’t really have to put a lot of effort into this, as I had my partner in crime to guide me in all the right directions.
What’s your top tip for saving money?
I would say don’t waste your money on the things that don’t matter! We all end up with a Pinterest full of wonderful ideas, but in reality can you actually afford it?
I was worried that after the wedding would I regret not having these things & no way I do not. I had what I wanted but I’m so glad I wasn’t greedy.
… and which elements of your wedding are you glad you spent more on?
We paid to have the amazing food and venue that we wanted, and that was the most important.
Where did you buy or source your wedding stationery – or was making it a labour of love?
I did a lot of copying & pasting to create my own designs. Which then I printed on boots photos, which cost me pence. If I can be savvy and save money I will!!
Did you fall in love with your wedding dress?
My dress was what dreams are made of! I really could not believe how amazing it made me feel & I was actually going to be the woman wearing the big white dress!
Wedding dress designer and bridal boutique:
My dress was a Venus Bridal design called Bliss. I got her from a beautiful store in Bungay called Lavender & Jude.
Tell us about your accessories: jewellery, shoes and anything else!
I always dreamed of being a princess and so I was…
– Headdress from linzijayuk
– Veil from Twilight designs ltd
– Shoes from ASOS bridal
And what did the groom wear?
Adam hired his suit from Moss Bros, he had a Ted baker three piece in blue. Along with all his groomsmen. Adam & his two best men had the same colour tie and pocket square as my maid of honour. And the rest of the groomsmen had the same colour as my two bridesmaids. They all wore tan brogues to finish the suit off.
Beautiful bridesmaids: what did your best girls wear?
My absolutely stunning bridesmaids wore a dress we got from ASOS, it took alot of buying and returning. I will be honest I don’t know what brand the dresses were but the thing that I liked the most was having my maid of honour in a different colour to my two bridesmaids.
Hair and make-up – did you DIY or hire a professional?
I went to my hairdresser for my hair, I’m sure most ladies will agree once you have a good relationship with your hairdresser she will be the only person you will trust with your hair. My hair dresser Carrie has her own salon called Infinity which is based in Stowmarket.
For make up, I must say there was much about but that doesn’t mean i woudnt have picked the same lady if she did have lots of competition. Emmas beauty – we had trials and I knew she was the lady to do my make up. I didn’t have to give her any direction she just worked her magic and made me feel glorious.
Crafts and makes – tell us about any homemade elements of your wedding… did you enjoy them?
There’s not a lot that I handmade. My bridesmaid did the favours for us, we had sugar coated almonds in mesh bags. And my maid of honour helped me to ribbon my jars. Personally I didn’t want to hand make a lot as I’m not very patient and to be honest quite lazy!
The wedding cake: what kind of cake did you choose and why?
The wedding cake was made by adams mum. She’s most certainly a dab hand at making cakes.
We had sponge and fruit cake, standard top tier of fruit cake which has been traditionally saved and popped aside.
The cake had 4 tiers with a fake bottom tier. It was white with a rose gold trim on each tier. And had a spray of icing flowers going up and round the front of the cake. So beautiful!
Entertainment: any musical recommendations, surprises or treats?
Music was pretty big standard and we had a disco! I’m not the biggest fan of a band, as I feel that you are restricted to what music you can have and we wanted our guests to be able to request songs that they wanted to party on to.
Words of wisdom: share your best piece of advice for other couples:
I would like to share the downside to my wedding day & that was letting my anxiety get the better of me. I spent an hour before the church freaking out and not being to control my emotions & also throughout our wedding breakfast I was nowhere to be seen as yet again having a melt down.
I cannot actually tell you why I felt like this and what was the cause, but whatever it was got the better of me. I can’t regret or dwell on it because our wedding day was one of the best days of my life. I can’t change what happened but maybe I could have recognised it before.
In the lead up to the wedding when things were wedding related I had the same experiences of feeling scared and anxious. If anyone else feels like this, I would say don’t ignore it and face the music. I wish I had bothered to get help and find ways to cope ahead of the big day.
What’s the best thing about being married?
To me it’s being Mrs Smith, me and adam have been together for 8 years and I always felt like I should be Mrs Adam Smith.
May sound stupid, but I feel all grown up now that I am a married woman.
Also I thoroughly enjoy calling Adam my Husband.
Favourite supplier web links for other brides and grooms:
I will be honest the best place to scroll through is Pinterest!!