When I met with Kent wedding photographer Benjamin Toms in February I don’t think he realised how many feature articles we’d talked through… but I left the little coffee shop so full of ideas and advice to share with you, this is already the fifth in our little series!
It’s a funny thing how every couple can feel pressured into having a ‘unique’ wedding… and the wedding media encourages brides and grooms to discover original suppliers, to craft personal and quirky décor, and to buy, design or make unique things.
Cue a bit of a revelation when Ben explained his perspective on exactly what makes a wedding unique. The answer wasn’t what I expected at all.
Could documentary wedding photography be the secret?
Documentary wedding photography is, as you probably know, telling the story of a wedding through emotions and moments. It’s not a factual timeline of your wedding, but a visual memory of the moments which will really let you relive your day for years to come.
In Ben’s words, the most important aspect of documentary wedding photography is capturing the relationships throughout the day. It’s the hugs and excitement as you get ready with your best girls, your sisters and your mum. It’s the nervous groom waiting in church, the moments you see your family for the first time, the tears and the laughter all the way through to the romance of your first dance.
Maybe you’ve found the best vintage bicycle anyone ever saw, and decorated it with flowers and cow parsley as a backdrop for your seating plan cards. But that’s not really what will make your wedding unique.
Weddings tend to have a LOT of things in common. Events happen through the day: hair and make up are done, dresses go on, cars arrive, vows are said, confetti is thrown and an amazing time is had by all. The styling differentiates one wedding from another and personalises the backdrop to it all… but this isn’t what makes a wedding unique.
Your wedding day will be a world apart from anyone else’s because it’s your day.
The massive things will be – for example – the way your parents’ eyes light up when they see you for the first time, and the look in your groom’s eyes as he turns towards you. Unique memories are made by people, not by things.
As a wedding photographer, Benjamin Toms will tell you that what makes a wedding unique is the interactions between everyone you know and love. This is why documentary wedding photography is huge; and it’s why an accomplished and talented storyteller is the best wedding photographer you can choose.
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