How to handle wedding critics and LOVE having a unique and personal wedding

You have just gotten engaged!! Congratulations! Now the fun really begins!

Have you been together for years or just a short while?

Suddenly EVERYBODY is going to have an opinion on how to plan your wedding. They cannot help themselves.

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I am guilty of it too! The minute I know someone has gotten engaged, I am asking, “have you got a theme, do you know what you want, do you want contacts? I have GREAT contacts, leave it with me, oh I’m sooooo excited for you!”

I forget that I am already the 4th person that day to ask that. (sorry to all my friends I have done this to btw)

SO! How do you combat this?! From DAY ONE set your ground rules.

If you want certain people to help plan certain things, ask them. They will feel amazing just to be included. You tell them exactly what you want and get them to help source/make/etc.

Have you got your heart set on a super cake designer? Mum may well say ‘you know Great Aunt Marge would love to make your cake for you’.

It is ok to say that you have something very specific in mind and you would prefer Great Aunt Marge to enjoy just being a guest.

I think the best thing is to be specific about everything you want. It is your day, and as a bride you have probably been planning it since you were about 5 years old. But let’s upgrade the white pillow case on the head to something a little more up to date, shall we?!

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Well meaning friends and family will have an awful lot to say about pretty much every aspect of your wedding from the dress, to venue, which guests to invite, children or no children, band or DJ.

Your very best defense is to nod, smile sweetly, say, “you make a great point, I hadn’t thought of it that way, thank you” and then move on.

If you are reading The English Wedding Blog, and many of the others, you already want a unique wedding.

Utilise us!

Pin us, check social media on suppliers you love. The beauty of this is that you can easily share this with your friends and family so that they feel included in the planning process.

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But what if you don’t want to do any of the traditional stuff?

Can you stay true to your heart if you and your fiance have dreamed of eloping for an intimate ceremony somewhere on a beach or a mountain top and saying your vows just to each other?

If that is what you want, you can still have it all.

Do it,  make the memories. Then come home and have a massive party!  Get everyone involved in that!

Having been in the wedding industry a while now,  the only regret I have ever heard  is people not doing it their way.

There are two people in a marriage. Make each other happy.

Photo credit Oobaloos wedding photography Cheltenham and south west england

Claire Gould

Claire spends her days writing - either in beautiful calligraphy or online. She lives on the edge of the English Lake District only minutes away from the beach, where she loves to escape and unwind. Claire's calligraphy can be found at Claire launched the English Wedding Blog in November 2009 - it's been a top 10 UK wedding blog ever since, with a regional focus we hope you LOVE.



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