Morning everyone! A little advice for you this morning, especially if you’re a little bit addicted to Facebook or Pinterest… it can’t just be me, can it?! How will you feel on your wedding day without your smart phone? Or should you bring it, along with your iPad, because you’ll need it on the day? All the answers are here – enjoy. I hope it’s useful! Claire xxx
For the tech-savvy couples of today there are hundreds of digital tools to track, share and tag just about every element of your special day. Whatever you want your wedding day to be, when it comes to technology etiquette for the big day, there are some dos and don’ts to follow to capture the memorable moments and avoid any digital faux pas.
Using an online tool like Pinterest, for example, is great to create an online area of all your ideas. You can ‘pin’ photos of the things that you like, such as flowers, dresses, venues etc to your own wedding pinboard while you’re browsing websites. Perhaps create one for ‘hair styles’, or ‘table decoration ideas’. Using the app version of the tool on your smartphone or iPad is also very practical if you are going for makeup or hair trials, as you will have hundreds of your favourite ideas at your fingertips.
It is inevitable that a guest or two may not be able attend the wedding day, perhaps due to illness or the cost of travelling, so hiring a wedding film maker can be a really good idea. These are great to watch back but also to share with guests who couldn’t be there. Many wedding film makers have their own Vimeo channel and will publish highlights of your wedding day there. (See the Vimeo channel of top wedding film makers Deneemotion for example.)
If your wedding venue allows it, pop a projector and pop-up screen by the bar as a social media station. Ask the guests to use a hashtag for wedding photos, tweets and pictures. Display these in real time for guests to watch as they wait to get their drinks.
In this technological age, try keeping all the speeches ready on a iPad. Not only does this look super cool but this way the key speeches will be stored safely and away from any spilt drinks and flappy bits of paper. You could even place a passcode on the iPad to avoid any eager eyes taking a sneak peek at the speeches.
Finally, taking a selfie or two at those quiet moments is a fun idea. A selfie of the bride in the car on the way to the church gives guests a look into those moments before the big reveal. Remember not to upload this straight away, whilst walking down the aisle or during the speech – wait until the next day.
Mark the ceremony or reception location on Google Maps so guests can look up the location on their smartphones and avoid any late comers noisily coming into the ceremony 10 minutes late.
Remember your wedding day can be everything you want it to be, no matter how weird or wacky! Using some of these digital tools will allow you to be a little more creative about planning and documenting the day you tie the knot.
Although it is nice to share lovely photos or quotes from the day, social media shouldn’t be used to document the ups and downs of the wedding planning as well as the on the day. It’s a little inappropriate to vent about the latest disaster or insensitive to post about how much something costs.
Using a disposable camera is still a fun idea, but never rely on these photos to capture the best parts of the evening. A lot of the photos turn out with a finger over the lens or of the dance floor. We’d recommend sticking to the guests’ smartphones, these have filters and touch-up applications too.
As tempting as it may be for guests to take snaps during the ceremony, it’s a shame that they will see it through a lens and not appreciate it for what it is. Keep special moments of the day for the official photographer and/or the videographer. Also official photos of the congregation can easily be ruined by someone holding up a smartphone or an iPad. There is also the chance that someone may upload a photo immediately even before you’ve left the church. If you want to avoid any photos of your ‘bad side’ then kindly make a note on the back of the order of service, if you can, to politely ask the guests to refrain from doing so in the ceremony itself.
Remember your day is about celebrating a marriage, not updating a status or texting a friend. After all, everyone you should want to contact should be in the room with you. If you must keep a phone with you, perhaps to contact important guests who couldn’t share your special day then buy a pretty clutch to store it in on your top table. Producing an iPhone from the cleavage of your dress is never a good look.
It’s extremely important to thank your guests for sharing your special day with you, especially if they bought you a congratulatory gift and card. A sincere and heartfelt thank you can only really be sent through a card or letter – something which guests can also keep. Avoid sending social media messages or worse, text messages to say thank you.
All in all, a wedding, including proposal and honeymoon, could be two-three years of Facebook status updates – maybe more! There is nothing wrong with sharing the important moments of your experience, but try and avoid the daily updates about every booking you’ve made.
It’s a good idea to keep some surprises for the wedding. It’s likely that you will have been asked every question under the sun about your wedding in the lead up to the day itself. As tempting as it is to share things like themes, it is nice to keep some of the information a secret until the wedding guests enter the marquee to keep that wow factor.
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Author Bio: Written by Michelle Rider at Braxted Park Weddings. Braxted Park is a licensed wedding venue in Essex, with capacity ranging from 50 to 300 guests. Braxted Park offers exclusive use for the day and boasts the highest level of service of any outdoor wedding ceremony providers in Essex.