Sometimes wedding blogs are very much like weddings – they have different personalities and flavours. On some occasions and for some of us details are important, a project to embrace and enjoy. At other times it’s all about the emotion, spending a memorable day with people we love and celebrating marriage together. Today is one of those days for me.
I stumbled across Caroline and Scott’s wedding on Hampshire photographer Bob Owen‘s blog and asked if he’d be so kind as to let me share his images with you. Bob said yes (lovely man that he is!) and Caroline was an absolute star filling out my English Wedding Blog questionnaire. I’m really pleased to be sharing their wedding with you on the blog today and I hope you’ll love the photos as well as the words of advice from this fantastic couple.
The highlight for me is Caroline’s advice about spending time with friends and family – something which rings very true for me as I missed so much of my sister’s wedding. So I’m starting today’s real wedding feature with the bride’s very own advice, written especially for you, lovely reader! I hope you enjoy the blog post. Claire xxx
Caroline and Scott – a marquee wedding in Hampshire and the things that will really matter on your wedding day
“Please be mindful that the day goes more quickly than you can imagine, make sure you take a step back and appreciate what is happening. Ensure that you have at least 10-15 minutes where it is just you and your husband, take yourselves away and watch what is happening.
“If you are sentimental and excited about sharing this day with your family, please communicate with them beforehand on what you want their involvement on the day to actually be. Which sounds ridiculous but by default you won’t see them because they think you will be too busy with everyone else. Whilst you’re getting ready, make sure you get ready with enough time once you have your dress on to sit and have a glass of champagne with them and talk about what is about to come and happen. Otherwise, you won’t get another chance the whole rest of the day to hang out with them or to share the day with them at all. And that made me sad because that was the thing that I was looking forward to most and I literally didn’t see my sisters or parents once.”
We had a marquee in the garden in Hampshire
Your wedding style and theme:
We went for a rustic, family, country feel but wanted the wedding to still feel like an occasion. The style wasn’t fancy and we focused on bringing it back to what’s important: for us that meant our friends, family and loved ones.
How long did you spend planning your wedding?
About 9 months
Best bit of budget advice?
If you have time, then you will be able to stick to your budget but if time is limited because you both work or you don’t have that much time to prepare then expect to go over. There are certain things worth paying for but don’t get bogged down in the little things. No one remembers the place names or table napkins or table maps but if the food or wine or band isn’t good, or people are cold then people would remember.
Invitations and stationery:
Just keep it plain and classic, you don’t need to spend huge amounts on this. Remember, people throw them away eventually. Prioritise where you want to spend your budget. What’s important to you?
Did you fall in love with your wedding dress?
Yes and no. The wedding dress shopping was way more stressful than I thought it might be. Make sure you go on your own as well as with people. Sometimes, you just need that moment with no one there to work out what you really want. I had no idea what I wanted but I did absolutely love my dress when I found it and I realised that was the look that I wanted.
Glitz and sparkle: the bride’s accessories:
I found an amazing designer to make my head piece, Gillian Million. She is bespoke but can do anything and it was a subtle piece that just added a little something without being too much.
The groom wore:
Beautiful bridesmaids: what did your best girls wear?
I had two older bridesmaids and they wore dresses from the company that one of them founded, Maiyet, they were bright red and I loved the pop that they brought to the day and photos.
Hair and make-up – did you DIY or hire a professional?
I used Guy Kremer in Winchester and they were the best, I was going to DIY but I’m so glad that I had both my make and up and hair done, it was by far the best decision. It just took the stress out and I could rely on someone else to do the best they could with me.
I wanted wild, rustic but statement flowers that weren’t so wild that they were messy but were wild enough that they could have been picked by us. Everything on the day was done by local people, I really wanted that kind of feel. I didn’t bring anything in from London.
The ceremony was Church of England in St Mary’s Church in Broughton. It was very special. The readings made it and the choir made the songs very hearty which was really fun. It was pretty much my favourite part of the day.
My sister read a poem that she wrote for her wedding day. We also had the Apache prayer which is so beautiful and then love – by Elizabeth Barrett Browning.
General styling – did your venue need much decoration?
We just had flowers in the marquee and lighting.
The band, 29 fingers, were absolutely phenomenal and everyone danced from the minute they went on to the minute they stopped. They were so fun, so involved, so entertaining and incredibly talented. Everyone has commented on how good they were.
Quick supplier list for other brides and grooms: