Focus on… the moments that really make a wedding

Hello. Welcome! Let’s talk about wedding blogs and reality today shall we?! …I thought that might pique your interest. Behind the scenes here at English Wedding Blog I’ve been secretly tormented for months by the way the wedding media focuses on details, losing sight of the fact that weddings are all about the moment you say “I do”. Time to bridge the gap…

The best memories. The best images. What weddings are really all about…


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Focus on… families. by Sam Clayton Photography. Being married is about family – your parents and friends, your children and all the love that surrounds you as a couple.

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Focus on… loving looks. by Phil Drinkwater Photography. Knowing you’re made for each other, capturing the pure love and turning it into memories you will never, ever forget. A loving look captured for eternity.


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Focus on… timeless brides. by Martin Hill Photography. Beauty is all about confidence and style, a glowing happiness and the radiance of being in love. It’s not fashion, trends or details which make the perfect wedding day.

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Focus on… timeless couples. by Neale James Photography. I adore this image: the bride’s elegance and style; the groom’s look of adoration. This is what your wedding day will be about. This is what you’ll remember for years to come.

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Focus on… sunshine and smiles. by Simon Biffen Photography. Beautiful images make perfect memories. This is one of the best. I can’t resist a radiant, sunny wedding photograph – so evocative and romantic.


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Focus on… wedding speeches. by Aaron Collett Photography. Couples tell me time and again that their favourite memory is their wedding speeches. This is one of the very best I’ve ever seen.


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Focus on… aisle moments: before the ceremony. by Martin Hambleton Photography. The moments before the wedding itself are gone in an instant – but they’re so charged with emotion for you both.


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Focus on… happiness. by Phil Drinkwater Photography. A gasp of laughter, a beaming smile, a blissful grin – these are the images which will remind you of the atmosphere and of how you felt on your wedding day.


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Focus on… wedding guests. by Shutterleaf Photography. You spend hours and hours creating the perfect day for your wedding guests – and in the end it all comes down to love. One of my favourite images.


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Focus on… friendship. by Simon Hudspeth Photography. Sharing your love with the special people in your lives is something you’ll always remember.


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Focus on… forever memories. by Mister Phill. The little stories which unfold on your wedding day will create their own memories – for everyone you love.


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Focus on… families. by Vickerstaff Photography. Love and memories combine to shape your lives and those of the people around you. A sensitive and observant wedding photographer is essential if you want to capture moments you will treasure for the rest of your lives.


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Focus on… English wedding venues by Vickerstaff Photography. We’re lucky to have some of the most charming, magnificent, quirky and historic wedding venues in the world.


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Focus on… emotional grooms. by Lightworks Photography. I love seeing men with a tear in their eye, or a nervous expression which turns into absolute bliss as soon as the ‘marriage bit’ is done. Walking back down the aisle as Mr and Mrs is a precious memory.


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Focus on aisle moments… by Ed Clayton Photography. As much planning as you can put into the seating plan, accessories and timings, some things will happen spontaneously. These moments are the ones you’ll remember – and here’s a last image to show you what weddings are really all about!

Magazines and wedding blogs focus on wedding details and ideas, we all know that. It’s great, don’t get me wrong! I love fabulous stationery design, quirky handcrafted lace accessories and a bit of vintage sparkle. But don’t let yourself get swept away by details – they explain why wedding blogs and magazines are so popular, but they’re not the most important thing.

Focus on… what’s really important about weddings – coming soon.

The overall focus of the wedding media is now on details. It seems to me that the balance is wrong – magazines and blogs should take responsibility for a little more perspective, and focus on marriage.

Photographers, brides and grooms often comment on blogs’ obsession with details. I’ve heard so many times that blogs should feature more ‘normal’ weddings. I guess that means the ideas we show should be accessible, and less of a feature than the story of the wedding itself. Real weddings are about magical moments, about marriage and love.

For me the best thing about being a wedding blogger is the wedding reports I receive from my couples. You talk about your wedding day highlights and memorable moments – and the best bits are always focused around love, family and friends: speeches, eyes meeting at the altar, and those precious moments spent alone during the day.

Over the coming weeks I want to reinforce the fact that weddings are all about love, moments and memories. Details can be important, yes. But let’s shift the balance a little – blogs focus too much on details. It’s time to focus on:

  • loving looks
  • aisle moments
  • sunshine and smiles
  • happiness
  • wedding speeches
  • emotional grooms
  • timeless brides
  • forever memories
  • English wedding venues
  • first dances
  • friendship
  • families

I’ve been collecting images which really capture the beauty of everything in this list. There are some amazing blog posts coming up with incredible wedding photography to give English Wedding Blog some perspective over the next few weeks. I hope you enjoy reading them as much as I’ve enjoyed writing them for you.

Claire xxx

With thanks for the exceptional images shown today to these lovely people:

there are more to come!

Claire Gould

Claire spends her days writing - either in beautiful calligraphy or online. She lives on the edge of the English Lake District only minutes away from the beach, where she loves to escape and unwind. Claire's calligraphy can be found at Claire launched the English Wedding Blog in November 2009 - it's been a top 10 UK wedding blog ever since, with a regional focus we hope you LOVE.



  • Bravo Claire!
    Yes, THIS is what weddings are about. The people, the love, the sharing and the enjoyment of a day that is a heady rush of emotions. These photographs all tell a story in just a split second. But see how much you learn!
    I’m already looking forward to seeing more 🙂

    • Claire Gould
      8 years ago

      Thanks Simon! I think you’ll enjoy the features I have coming up 🙂
      Claire x

  • Belinda Mccarthy
    8 years ago

    Darn right! Weddings are about PEOPLE. Not favours, not dress labels, not fancypants venues, not arriving on horseback or jetting off by helicopter. PEOPLE. Too many weddings blogs are insanely obsessed with details; all that does is an unachievable, stressful benchmark for wedding couples who think that they have to come up with something unique, something unbelievably smack-you-in-the-face out there, something far too expensive when it comes to their wedding.

    My favourite weddings are those where love is (to steal a phrase) all around. Nothing else matters 🙂

    • Claire Gould
      8 years ago

      Thanks Belinda – I’m with you. Details are great, I love them and think special touches can create special memories of their own – but it’s time for me to focus just as much on the memories (like the wedding photographers do in their blogs, right?!)
      Claire x

      • Belinda Mccarthy
        8 years ago

        I have to say, Claire, you are one of the very few blogs that ISN’T hung up on details! They surely have their place, but they’re very much the supporting act to the main event 🙂 Keep on doing what you’re doing 🙂

  • pat barber
    8 years ago

    Another lovely idea, Claire; just caught it by chance. Beautiful photographs that make you think about the important things. xxx

    • Claire Gould
      8 years ago

      Thank you Pat 🙂 Hope you’re surviving December so far! xx

      • pat barber
        8 years ago

        Just about! Might drown in paper chains before we speak again! xxx

  • Oh how lovely! Looking forward to your blog posts over the next few weeks x

    • Claire Gould
      8 years ago

      Thanks Amy, they should be really lovely to read. You’ll like the first dance one!

  • Alexis Jaworski
    8 years ago

    Very nice blog post and images to illustrate. I totally agree about celebrating the moments, the real reason why the wedding takes place. Details are nice to remember the day but should not take the spotlight… Thanks for posting!

  • Martin Hambleton
    8 years ago

    Okay I’m biased as you’ve included one of my images in this post. But this is what weddings are – a day of emotion and magical moments. No amount of bunting can ever compare to that.

  • Alan Law
    8 years ago

    A fantastic post, Claire, and I must say I 100% agree – far too much focus on details within the wedding blog industry. I’m a wedding photographer myself, and though I do of course capture the details, I’m a people photographer; capturing emotions, reactions, laughs and special moments – that’s what I love to do. Afterall, it’s the *people* that make the weddings, not the details. As you can probably guess, I feel very passionate about this!

  • Nathan
    8 years ago

    Beautiful collection of images. Kudos to all the photographers whose work is shown here. Brilliant words to accompany them to Claire.

  • Dearest Claire,
    Perfect sentimental post for this time of year. Yes, capturing moments of love and happiness is like writing the love story of your life…
    Enjoy your December month!

  • Really great post Claire! As a documentary wedding photographer I share the view that it’s the moments that really make the day and those are the shots that get the best reactions from my clients when they see them. It’s good to see a blog focusing on these rather than the usual multitude of detail images.

    Am looking forward to the rest of the series.

  • Kath Charlton
    8 years ago

    Great post Claire, its got to be about the the people – without them there wouldn’t be a wedding!

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