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Sticking to your guns: The art of prioritising when planning your wedding

From castles, dinosaurs and dancing unicorns (step one) to a realistic and sensible way of creating the wedding you will love, and in budget (step three) – think you can do it? I’m sure you can, and it’s all about having a vision and knowing what you really want as a couple.

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Wedding photography credit: Georgi Mabee. Click to see the rest of this gorgeous wedding on the blog!

Rachel has written today’s guest article for you, and it’s brilliant. Follow her advice and you’ll be well on the way to saving both money and stress as you plan your big day together.

Sticking to your guns: The art of prioritising when planning your wedding.

Every couple planning a wedding (unless they happen to be extremely rich with little or no family) will have to make compromises. This is a fact. But don’t panic! Here is a simple guide to working out your priorities early and then sticking to them with a steely determination in the face of dream venues, pushy mother-in-laws and dwindling funds.

Step one: You’re engaged!

Celebrate, drink champagne, enjoy the moment, dream big and tell your other half every half-baked idea you’ve ever had involving castles and dancing unicorns. Maybe he’ll tell you about how he fancies sky-diving into the venue or getting married at the Emirates.

Smile kindly and nod, don’t fall out – none of these things are ever going to happen. For me and my other half our dream scenarios included getting married in a crumbly palazzo in Rome, on the beach in Cornwall or under a dinosaur in a natural history museum.

All would have been amazing but all would have come with their own headaches. So daydream for a while (and for god’s sake don’t tell your parents anything that you’re not actually planning to do – the dinosaur brainwave did not go down well with my mum and dad).

Step two: Sit down, make yourselves a tea (or a stiff drink) and get a pen and paper.

Work out what really matters to you. What actually really matters, not the colour of your shoes or whether the men will have top hats.

Write down the 5 things that will really make your wedding day.

It doesn’t matter what those things are. For us it was good food; a relaxed atmosphere; a blank canvas reception venue; plentiful, free drinks; and keeping costs low for us and our friends.

Yours might be the venue, the dress, the music – anything… Whatever these things are, stick with them. Everything else is up for negotiation but not these five things!

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Click the image to see Beth and Matt’s Exeter wedding – photo credit Lucy Turnbull Photography

Step three: Keep this list about your person and each time you feel the pressure to deviate from your plans (and that’s going to happen A LOT) let it remind you.

If you’re just about to sign up for a beautiful country house venue but are limited to a specific dull and generic caterer maybe think again if, like us, you desperately wanted to design your own menu.

Don’t let anyone pressurise you into over-spending on a beautiful princess dress when what you really want to spend the money on is a band and a cute short dress and heels that you can dance all night in.

So there you have it. Simple really. Although your fantasy wedding plans will inevitably go out the window, if you stick to your guns on the things that really matter your wedding will be better than either of you could have imagined.

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Thank you to Rachel from www.paperarrowpress.co.uk for writing this guest article for English Wedding Blog. Paper Arrow Press offers super cool and affordable stationery for weddings and other special events. Paper Arrow Press is run by Rachel Russell, the talented graphic designer behind HelloWilson – and I have some of her postcards displayed on my mantelpiece at English Wedding Blog HQ! She comes highly recommended.

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Claire Gould

Claire spends her days writing - either in beautiful calligraphy or online. She lives on the edge of the English Lake District only minutes away from the beach, where she loves to escape and unwind. Claire's calligraphy can be found at www.byMoonandTide.com. Claire launched the English Wedding Blog in November 2009 - it's been a top 10 UK wedding blog ever since, with a regional focus we hope you LOVE.

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