I’m going to show you an email, and then I’m going to say just what I think about a) plastic surgery and b) the idiots who think brides are their ideal customers for procedures.
This could get messy…
Here’s the email I found in my inbox this morning:
I can’t fault Bella’s polite approach, but it’s certainly a one-email-fits-all thing, so I don’t feel bad about my response. She’s only asking for a guest post about skincare… all perfectly harmless (I’ve nothing against moisturiser!) – but the string attached would be a nice backlink to a blog about cosmetic surgery. Kerching?
My reply to the email (sadly it’s one of many)
I have strong feelings about anyone in the business of making money from people’s vulnerabilities… this is me explaining that quite nicely:
My opinions on surgery:
- I have no problem with surgery after an accident. Severe burns and scarring can be traumatic – if an operation or two will help, it’s a good thing.
- I don’t like vanity. I don’t like our society’s perception of beauty. I don’t agree that surgery is the answer to a crooked nose, small boobs, wrinkles, a big tummy, saggy bum… whatever. The answer is to accept whichever of your bits you don’t like. Simple.
- There are huge risks. General anaesthetics shouldn’t be taken with as little care as, say, Smarties.
- This is a multi-million pound industry feeding off people’s vulnerabilities. That’s not nice.
Cosmetic surgery and the wedding industry:
The big clinics like Transform (ick) have spotted a gap in the market over the last year or two. Brides. An easy target, they seem to think. Every bride wants to look perfect on her wedding day. How patronising and condescending is that?!
Brides also have a lot of money – if they’re prepared to spend £x,xxx on a venue, catering, photography, flowers… these businesses want some.
So these companies have been advertising in wedding magazines, and they’re now trying to get in with the wedding blogs. They’ll never, ever get any advertising space on English Wedding. (I’m also trying to avoid using words which will encourage their Google advertising on this post.)
The real beauty in weddings – it’s not about cup size
Because beauty is inside us, and being pretty on the outside is the tiniest little part of that. Accepting our flaws and vulnerabilities makes us more lovable. Your husband will love you for who you are – warts and all, as the saying goes.
I think getting married is a sign of maturity. The same kind of maturity which can lead a girl to accept those bits of herself she’s not so keen on – after all, when someone falls in love with you exactly as you are, you learn to see yourself through their eyes.
And they love the bumpy, wrinkly and bent bits on the outside of you, just as much as they love the soul on your inside.
The idea of spending £5k on invasive procedures to lift, mould and shape parts of a person’s body seems ridiculous.
The perfect wedding – love and commitment (not skin)
Having a perfect wedding isn’t about flaunting your perfect body. It’s not about your figure or your face – it’s about sharing your love as a couple with all of your friends and family, coming together in celebration and making a commitment.
Marriage means you’ll be together forever. Your wedding day marks the first day of that lifetime commitment – and these businesses who are after your money for surgery don’t even see that.
Keep your focus, think about being married for the next thirty, forty, fifty or sixty years – and join me in sticking two fingers up at the cosmetic surgery companies who can’t see the beauty in growing old and wrinkly together.