Cherish the moment: be silly-excited about your wedding!

Have the words ‘wedding planning‘ lost their tingle? What springs to mind when you hear them: that first shiver of anticipation as you exchange glances down the aisle, or your budget spreadsheet?

Let’s forget for a minute that planning a wedding can be a huge feat of organisation. Forget the budgets, forget deposits and deadlines.

little girl on a wedding day

Take a little time out to pretend you’re a little girl again.

If your seven year old self could see you now, in fact if she could be you right now, how excited would she be feeling? You’re planning a wedding. Your wedding. You’re getting married to your boyfriend, you’ll wear your very own wedding dress and have a magical day with music and a wedding cake. Woweeee!

Playing at weddings used to be so exciting!

That little girl and her excitement never really goes away. Let her out for a bit! Forget the grown up you with all your spreadsheets from time to time and – just for a few precious moments – relish the excitement instead.

playing at weddings aged seven ish - yes, that's me!

When you go to look at wedding dresses, or when you’re being led around your wedding venue hand in hand with your fiance – remember when you dreamed of this!

Recapture your wedding excitement!

Did you ever dress up in a veil and your best dress and play at being a bride? It was fun, wasn’t it! Striding around the garden just being fabulous and having a great time… and imagining you were 21 and getting married to your handsome prince.

That’s now! Time has flown by and all of a sudden that seven year old girl is all grown up, and it’s all happening for real. Sit back and imagine how she’d feel today.

Let the little girl out from that dusty corner in the back of your mind behind the spreadsheets and feel how widely she’s smiling right now.

Don’t let go of that excitement. You’re her, she’s you – and the big day’s on its way.

I saw that excitement for real this week!

I was wandering around Hobbycraft looking for some ribbon and passed a girl in her twenties, basket full to the brim of invitation kits, ribbons, flowers and other goodies and boyfriend in tow.

She had that happy, preoccupied expression on her face, walking down the wedding aisle and as she passed me she said to herself, quietly under her breath “I need…. textured papers” – but it was the way she said it that got my attention. She had the wistful and dreamy air of childhood, like a little girl about to build the biggest most exciting glittery fairytale castle – except this girl was all grown up and making her wedding stationery.

It’s those little moments you should recognise and fall in love with. I’m sure you’ve done it – walked into your venue and had a real “wow” moment as you imagine yourselves there. Or maybe you met with your wedding photographer and felt that excitement as you described your plans for the big day.

Feeling brave? Your seven year old self was pretty fearless wasn’t she… climbing trees, riding her bike like a crazy person and trying new stuff all the time.

Play along: are you brave enough to…

Let your seven year old self help you plan your wedding!

So – are you having fun planning your wedding? Lots of giggles and intriguing parcels coming in the post? Projects you can’t wait to get started?

What would your seven year old self add to the big day?

young girl at a wedding with sparkles

  • Sparkles. Crystals on your dress, sparkly accessories, plenty of twinkle!
  • Glitter and glue. Get making stuff! It used to be so much fun
  • A tiara. No self respecting seven year old would be without a tiara on her wedding day
  • Horses or helicopters. A carriage for the ladies – or assuming for a second that your seven year old self was a boy, maybe a helicopter for your grand entrance!
  • Sweets. When you’re grown up you can have whatever you like, remember? Candy stations are pretty popular. And you probably get to keep what’s left too!
  • Chocolate fountains. It’s the essential course on any wedding breakfast menu when you’re seven. Tacky? Maybe chocolate fountains have had their day… but deliciously chocolatey? Ooooh yes. And retro is IN – what more excuse do you need?!

How to stay excited about your wedding day

Marriage is a serious business; weddings are a celebration.

In an ideal world no one would get anxious about a wedding day – but sometimes the organisation and finances can get in the way of your excitement.

Here are some grown up ideas for keeping your wedding excitement alive!

  • Keep it simple. The bigger and more formal your celebration, the more planning is required. Do you really need a sit down meal and a receiving line?
  • Don’t overspend. Money is the biggest pre-wedding stress factor. Cut down your guest list a little for the sake of your credit card bills and your sanity!
  • Break some rules. Wedding etiquette is ridiculous. You don’t need it.
  • Boys – don’t wear a tie unless you’re comfortable with one. Looking smart is fine; looking cool is better.

Need more help with that childish excitement?

If reading this blog post hasn’t left you with a girlish smile on your face, perhaps you could use some inspiration from one of my favourite wedding photographers.

Cat Hepple wrote a blog post in March which has stuck with me ever since. Adults never look up. Children do. Look to the skies, see the positive, discover a whole new way to look at the world around you – and at your wedding plans. Adults Never Look Up… read more

Do you have any tips for keeping that excitement alive? When have you felt that little flutter of childish excitement about your wedding day?

Thanks to Chris Hanley Photography for the inspiring pics!





Claire Gould

Claire spends her days writing - either in beautiful calligraphy or online. She lives on the edge of the English Lake District only minutes away from the beach, where she loves to escape and unwind. Claire's calligraphy can be found at Claire launched the English Wedding Blog in November 2009 - it's been a top 10 UK wedding blog ever since, with a regional focus we hope you LOVE.



  • Jenny McAvoy
    8 years ago

    All so true. As grown ups we are often pre occupied about appearances or pleasing everyone. A 7 year old’s outlook is so much simpler-have what you want, what you like, whether or not that is trendy or cool. Most of all have fun.

    • Claire
      8 years ago

      A great point to add, Jenny. Appearances be damned, and as for pleasing everyone – I’d say keep it simple: good food, nice drinks, great venue.

      Couldn’t agree more… have fun!

  • Lucy Goodier
    8 years ago

    I have vivid memories of getting married on numerous occasions under the playground slide at primary school…yes, I started young! I love the thought about the innocence of seeing it from a child’s perspective, it makes everything seem so much simpler. As a child, you do dream of it being the happiest day of your life and that’s exactly what it should be. Therefore – to reiterate Jenny’s sentiments, do what makes YOU happy and your dreams will come true xx Ahhh lovely xx

    • Claire
      8 years ago

      Such a lovely comment, Lucy – thank you!

      How cute you must have been… I wonder why it all took place under the slide though?! Hee. Reminds me I have a great wedding to blog soon with everyone in a playground… must get that published, it will fit so well with this post.

      Thanks for the reminder! xxx

  • Fran Cuthbert
    8 years ago

    Love that article! I’m starting to get a bit like that, I got really fed up with wedding dress shopping.

    Luckily I’m bringing in the sparkle! Hobby craft is great!

    • Claire
      8 years ago

      Looking forward to seeing your sparkle on your wedding blog, Fran!

      And check back tomorrow for more ideas about sparkle in our Kids Wedding Survey. 😉

      C x

  • bycostello
    8 years ago

    Dosn’t matter how old.. always will be Daddy’s little girl…

    • Claire
      8 years ago

      Oh how sweet! I guess that’s true.
      Again – there’s something in tomorrow’s feature that will make you smile. Talk about being Daddy’s little girl… come back on Friday and remember to read it carefully!
      Claire xx

  • KtP
    8 years ago

    I’m still pretty darn excited about getting married but your post just put an even bigger grin on my face & made me want to dash to hobbycraft & grab everything! Not sure I can wait till next september, I might actually explode! huzzah!

    • Claire
      8 years ago

      Oh I love you for saying that! Thank you!
      There’s a lot to be said for Hobbycraft… getting good stuff on the internet is all very well, but wandering around touching sparkly things and putting them in your basket is fab! xxx

  • Viki
    8 years ago

    This is the best advice 🙂 I am the girl who has wanted the big princess wedding since I was small and unashamedly admit this – I keep it in mind every time the spreadsheet won’t add up!

    • Claire
      8 years ago

      Good for you Viki – that’s brilliant and you’ve made me smile lots!
      Go for it… and thanks for the link to your blog via commentluv… I’m off for a nosey now 🙂

  • chris hanley
    8 years ago

    great article claire. Well written, thanks for using my pictures. x

    • Claire
      8 years ago

      Thanks Chris
      Just added a credit… oops 🙂

  • Loulabelle
    8 years ago

    Oh Claire I love this post and it was just what I needed today after a stressful evening of table planning (its official you just can;t keep eveyrone happy).

    Love it x

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