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Banned from the dictionary: budget weddings!

I can’t stand the phrase “budget wedding” – it makes my toes curl and my teeth itch. Brides and grooms: if you’re planning a wedding for less than £5,000 we need to think of a new word to get across your creativity and independence!

“Budget wedding” is a dreary phrase, a wedding industry standard that everyone uses to describe less expensive weddings.

Hip and Funky Wedding Photographer LondonIt sounds awful though doesn’t it… we need a more upbeat phrase for everyone out there who is thinking creatively and spending less on their wedding day. Something that doesn’t sound faintly disappointing, but inspiring and clever!

What’s wrong with “budget weddings”?

It’s become an industry phrase with too many negative connotations and I hate it!

Spending £5,000? Oooh, you’re having a “budget wedding” then.

Making your own bunting? Ah, you’re a “budget bride”…. well done.

Ick, ick and more ick. You’re creative, intelligent and not caving to industry pressure. You’re a “bright bride”, planning your own wedding – I refuse to use the phrase “budget wedding” any more.

Spending less, creating more – on inspiring weddings!

I admire brides and grooms who can spend less on their wedding day, who don’t cave in to the myriad pressures of wedding planning. It’s brilliant that brides are finding wedding dresses on the high street, having parties at home and binning their gift lists.

After all, marriage is a serious commitment; weddings are a celebration. And it’s the former that matters most.

Spend whatever you can afford on your wedding – fine by me!

I have no issues with anyone spending £2,000 or £20,000 on their wedding. Fine – if you’ve got it, spend it on what you like! Helicopter yourselves in, get a spare pair of Jimmy Choos for the evening… fine! But I’m as much a fan of a barefoot wedding (my secret dream for the blog: a gorgeous hippy wedding in a field!)

But whatever you spend, be proud of the plans you’re making. Money doesn’t make the world go round: LOVE makes the world go round.

No more “budget weddings” – let’s get creative!

So what would be your definition of a “budget wedding”? Mine would be…

A wedding costing less than £5,000, incorporating DIY elements and alternative venue, dress, and reception ideas to save money.

… and I’d choose to call it

  • a creative wedding
  • a modern wedding
  • a blog-inspired wedding!
  • a 21st century wedding
  • a bijou wedding (cute!)

What do you think?

Photo Credit: Steve Currid, www.hipandfunky.co.uk

 

 

Claire Gould

Claire spends her days writing - either in beautiful calligraphy or online. She lives on the edge of the English Lake District only minutes away from the beach, where she loves to escape and unwind. Claire's calligraphy can be found at www.byMoonandTide.com. Claire launched the English Wedding Blog in November 2009 - it's been a top 10 UK wedding blog ever since, with a regional focus we hope you LOVE.

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30 COMMENTS
  • Here here! Can’t stand the term and will NEVER describe any of my stationery as being for the ‘budget bride’. The most creative and stunning weddings I’ve ever seen have been done for under £5000 and I think it makes couples feel desperately unhappy to be described as being a budget wedding … like their wedding isn’t as good as someone elses. Spend what you need to to achieve your perfect day … whether that be £1000 or £50000!

    • Claire
      8 years ago
      AUTHOR

      Thanks Nikki! Very true – a lovely positive comment as always.
      Claire xxx

  • Charis
    8 years ago

    Love this post, every wedding is a budget wedding some are just bigger than others. I agree have a smaller budget actually makes you much more creative then the couple who have an endless budget and a team of wedding planners at their disposal.

    • Claire
      8 years ago
      AUTHOR

      Thank you Charis. Love that blog post – great tip for saving on fairy lights! xxx

  • I’m right with you. A wedding is a wonderful thing, no matter how little it costs. It’s time to replace that judgement-loaded description with one that celebrates the energy and inventiveness that goes into making a more-than-money wedding.

    • Claire
      8 years ago
      AUTHOR

      Wow Melita thanks for the comment – I love how you write!

      And a more-than-money wedding – what a brilliant phrase! xxx

  • To design an amazing wedding with a small budget requires far more imagination & creativity than one with an unlimited budget. And of course, I love the term ‘bijou wedding’ 🙂

    • Claire
      8 years ago
      AUTHOR

      Hehe – I think ‘bijou’ might have snuck in at the back of my brain after visiting your blog, Louise! It is a fab word isn’t it 🙂

  • Hannah Beatrice
    8 years ago

    Nice! I like ‘bijou wedding’ personally. There’s definitely too much snobbery around about how much people *should* spend on their wedding, and specifically, what they should spend it on.
    I guess it started with brides searching for the term though – don’t you think it’s just practical for search engines? Actually I hate the thought of our language being tailored to suit search engines – eradicate “Budget Wedding”!

    • Claire
      8 years ago
      AUTHOR

      Ha – love how you talked yourself around there Hannah – and I was with you all the way. (I’m obsessed with language and how it changes…. quite a horrifying thought that Google will steer the English language from this point forwards. Argh!)
      Claire xx

  • kirsty
    8 years ago

    Great post!
    Having recently heard someone describe my wedding as “cheap and cherrful” il take budget wedding instead!
    So what if its in a village hall, with all DIY decorations, and theres no 3 course meal! The time and effort is far greater and more of our personalitys will be present of the day.
    My other halfs brother is getting married before us with a budget of 25k, our budget is 6k and to be honest im already worrying comparisions will be made.

    • Lynette (Blinc Pics)
      8 years ago

      Kirsty

      You really should not worry about comparisions being made, I have been to weddings at the same venue where clearly one couple has spent £20k and another wedding where they spent £8k and I can honestly say it made no difference to the day, both weddings where filled with love and happiness, everyone who was there was there to see these couples get married not to compare between the last wedding they went to.

      I actually think there is far to much pressure on couples to try and out do the last wedding they attended. And as long as everyone at the wedding is having a great time no-one really takes in how much has been spent. We should all have our weddings the way we want to not worry about anyone else.

      Sometimes when you have less to spend you have to be more inventive in your ideas to allow your money to go further.

      • Claire
        8 years ago
        AUTHOR

        Thank you Kirsty and Lynette, I think ‘cheap and cheerful’ has as much negativity to it as ‘budget’ so far as phrases go – but it made me think the opposite can also apply. I went to a friend’s wedding a few years ago and it was an expensive do where I felt quite out of place: everything was gorgeous, beautifully done and in a stately home… but as a guest I’d have been happier with something a little cosier.

        The best wedding I’ve ever been to was my sister’s. She hired a quiet country pub, somewhere special to us in the Lakes where we grew up – and a few years on I don’t remember much about the decorations but just what a perfect day it was, how happy they looked, the pride on my mum & dad’s faces, and how gorgeous my little sis looked in her wedding dress with her new husband.

        And that’s the side of your wedding that means more than anything.

        Lovely thoughts from both of you: thanks for sharing.

        Claire xx

        • kirsty
          8 years ago

          Thanks for the words of wisdom and support. At this stage of planning most relatives cant see the images me and my other half have of the day, as I guess there use to the more traditional wedding. Though as there expectations are quite low I hope they will be shocked at how it all comes together. Im a country gal and where having a village hall wedding with afternoon Tea (Me and the other half are car boot addicts – vintage china) bunting, traditional fete games, followed by music and a hog roast.

          Claire – your comment about feeling out of place is so true, my other half’s family would much prefer to party in a field then a posh hotel, in fact im starting to wonder what I was worrying about at all!

          And me and the other half have dreamt of our wedding for so long I wont mind if he turns up in his wellies….if there clean that is!

    • Julie Dawson
      8 years ago

      Hey Kirsty,
      Dont worry about comparisons, yes easy for me to say. I don’t want to offend the other member of your family but i can guarantee that you will put yourself heart and soul into your wedding. Being creative and imaginative take time and commitment. Your guests will really notice and if you really think out of the box I bet your guests will remember all the lovely details you put into the day. I am sure they will have some lovely details too. It is like someone else said all weddings are budget, everyone has one and most people have to work to one. Let yourself go with your imagination and I am certain your wedding will be a day to remember. Please try and not to compare yourself, your day is for you and your partner to enjoy as you truly want to. x

  • sally
    8 years ago

    You know my thoughts on this Claire- a fab article. I promise i’ll take my shoes off and get some pics in the fields surrounding my parents just for you! X

    • Claire
      8 years ago
      AUTHOR

      Heee – Sally – yay!
      xxx

  • Lisa Machin
    8 years ago

    Budget wedding is a horrible term, apart from anything else it always sounds to me quite disparaging whereas a personalised, hand crafted celebration should be something to aspire to. I suppose the challenge for us as suppliers is to cater for both large and small purses (note I didn’t say budget!) without compromising on the standard or quality of our products & services, and that takes creative thinking on our part too.
    And I’m proud to say that when me and Mr Gorgeous were married 17 years ago, I made my dress from a £3 remnant of ivory brocade curtain fabric!

    • Julie Dawson
      8 years ago

      Just checked out your site Lisa, your cakes look fab. will save your details you are not far from me. I am based in Lichfield.

  • Claire
    8 years ago
    AUTHOR

    Lisa, I like that: large and small purses.
    And there’s the other great thing about creative, bijou, more-than-money weddings – you have more stories to tell. My mum made her own dress as well, and I admire her so much for it. I think you went one better with £3 but I love that you have that story, and memory, to share.
    Well done also for marrying Mr Gorgeous! Nice one 😉
    Claire xx

  • Francesca
    8 years ago

    this is all too true!
    I have become really disheartened lately, searching for a venue to have an outside wedding reception (perhaps with a marquee) in Greater London, Surrey, Kent or East Sussex that doesn’t cost the earth.
    We have a £5000 budget and are finding venues impossible- so many of them start at £3500! Once you factor in food, drink and photography it all becomes too much.
    I think there is a huge gap in the market for outside venues, marquee venues and reasonable alternatives. For instance, I discovered two companies who specialise in vintage themed marquees already decorated for you at a good price, but they are both up north. There doesn’t seem to be anything like this in the South.
    I’m so excited at the prospect of making our decorations, getting my craft on and being a DIY bride, buying my dress second hand… it’s just finding the setting which is SO difficult.
    You are all right though, I think spending less forces you to think outside of the box and makes you re-asses what is important at your wedding. It’s certainly for the creative bride!

    with love,

    Francesca

    ps: my mother has a good sized garden, which I’ve considered, but the house is on an A-road so there’s constant traffic noise which is putting me off somewhat. ARGH!

    • Claire
      8 years ago
      AUTHOR

      Hi Francesca,

      I love the idea of vintage themed marquees – although it’s a shame they’re not close enough for you. I’ve just emailed you with an idea for finding locations for your marquee – one of my industry friends might be able to help!

      I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you – and you keep the excitement alive about making your decorations. It will all come together in the end…

      Claire xxx

  • Sacha Tremain
    8 years ago

    How about “I refuse to spend more than I can afford on one day of my life wedding”?

    On a serious note I like bijou wedding. Cute.

    • Claire
      8 years ago
      AUTHOR

      Ha… Sacha, I like. Does what it says on the tin approach. 🙂

  • Agh, it’s tough isn’t it?! For our wedding we got some great deals on everything. I even went to the extreme of doing my own cake and wedding topper-which now has pride of place on my fireplace! Getting discounts on everything and saved wherever we could…mainly because we wanted to splash out on the best holiday ever! Because the venue was so stunning people, to this day, make snipes about how much it must have cost and how my wedding was so much ‘grander’ than theirs! Obviously these are people I care little about now but it really gets to me that they think we were showing off?! We only had 46 gusts which reduced our costs considerably. The people that go on about it had triple the amount of guests so I have no idea what the problem is? Anyway…I have no idea why this still winds me up!?

    I too have been known to use the ‘budget’ term. I have no idea what other term to use!? I’ve had brides spending 6k on a dress and wanting everything in their film and then others spending a small fortune on photography and having little left over for their film. The one thing I pride myself on is that they can have the ‘smaller/ basic’ package and build on it after the wedding day when funds/ gifts/ savings allow. How would I market that…? 🙁

    • Claire
      8 years ago
      AUTHOR

      Oh Charlene, it seems you can’t win! But I bet your wedding was lovely: perfect venue, handcrafted details… and without breaking the bank? Brilliant. Well done you!!! And I hope you had the best holiday ever too. 🙂
      As for building on your basic package, I think there’s something to be said for ‘helping yourselves to more from the sweet jar’ (accompanied by a photo of a gorgeous candy buffet from a US wedding blog!) – I do like your existing packages of Sweet, Sweeter etc.
      Maybe it’s something you can explain in a single blog post and add a link to from your packages page – so it’s not confusing to have it on the packages page right from the beginning, but the information’s there for the brides and grooms who need it.
      Do you promote your Extras with a leaflet when you send final films out to your brides and grooms?

      • Hi Claire! Great suggestions! Thank you. We did have the best holiday ever and we’re very thankful we didn’t get into debt over it all with the current climate…we then got to put all the savings into the new business 🙂

        I love the sweet jar idea. We always have sweets around when couples come over and we even had them at our first wedding fayre which went down a treat! Maybe explaining it a little more in the blog would be a good idea, I’ll definitely look into doing that. We’ve found a lot of people don’t actually read everything and detail and just email straight away of they like your work and prices so I do a lot of chatting at that stage. The extras leaflet is a great idea too! I’d not even thought about that! We send out info on picking their ‘soundtrack’ and the photographers we recommend at the minute so I’ll have to be careful not to bombard them! Thanks again. Still finding it hard not to say ‘budget’…even couples still use it!!

  • Julie Dawson
    8 years ago

    Sorry Claire I forgot to say I think Bijou Wedding sounds great. It makes me feel like the day would be imaginative, quirky and warm. I want to go to one of those Bijou weddings.!

  • David Millington
    8 years ago

    Hello Claire

    Thank you for your interesting and thought provoking blog article.

    When I read or hear the term “Budget Wedding”, I like to think the Wedding being planned is going to be inspirational and creative. It’s the personal touches I feel that make a Wedding unique to the couple. The Weddings I’ve photographed that have been designed, created and planned by the Couple are often more intimate and are enjoyed by all. We invited 60 guests for our Wedding and guests are still talking about it today!

    Best wishes

    David Millington

  • Suzanne @ Prettywild
    8 years ago

    Great thought-provoking post as always, Claire! I squirm at the term budget wedding too . Every wedding has a ‘budget’ whether large or small, but rather than inspire a creative challenge, the phrase immediately springs up in my mind aggressive haggling, pound shops and fake handbags! Sorry.
    It’s not a new phenomenon – in the good old days (she croaked) Granny Maude made the cake, Mum made the dresses, Aunties laid on a cracking spread of food and the honeymoon was a few days at the seaside – perhaps that really is a true Vintage Wedding, full of love, social celebration and helpful collaboration without a mention of that negative B-word. I appreciate social history has, of course, changed and should change, so my proposal would be “Boutique Wedding” – Chic, one of a kind, full of inspiring little details and thoughtfully inventive with oodles of personality.

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