Wedding Limbo

Days to go: 46

My body is not being kind to me, so I’m going to have a moan. I spent the whole of last night running back and forth to the bathroom as my body decided to subject itself to a little bit (well, A LOT) of food poisoning. It’s like my body is trying to get everything it can out of the way before the wedding. I’ve never had food poisoning before, I’d also never had shingles before this year… I don’t understand why now has to be the time to experience these things!

All this health stuff is putting a dampener for me on the lead up to the wedding. I’ve been so excited for such a long time but now I’m at the point where I’d rather just be married already than be waiting 46 days to be. It feels as if I don’t have the strength to carry on with everything at the moment… and I just want it to be over.

It’s not all sweetness and light this planning a wedding lark, as I’m sure you veterans know. I’m am really starting to annoy myself, too. Every other sentence that leaves my lips has the word ‘wedding’ in it, and frankly I’m actually boring myself. I spent my lunch break yesterday conscious of opening my mouth as infrequently as possible so not to say anything about the wedding. This all ended in me telling the absolutely most boring story you’ll ever hear, about how when Richard was making a combination of two loaves in our bread maker, and chose the wrong setting, so the bread came out very doughy and wasn’t very enjoyable to eat.

Is this what my life is going to be like after the wedding? Bread makers?

I am going to call this period preceding the wedding ‘Wedding Limbo’. It’s that time when you can’t be bothered with the waiting any more, when you just want it over and done with, when you’d rather just be married already than go through the day that has been on your mind for months and is now more a hindrance than something to look forward to.

What’s unfortunate for me is that right now, Richard is the most excited he’s ever been. And rather him telling me to stop talking about making table plans because there’s over a year to go until the day, he’s suggesting we get a move on! I’m a bad wife-to-be.

Claire Gould

Claire spends her days writing - either in beautiful calligraphy or online. She lives on the edge of the English Lake District only minutes away from the beach, where she loves to escape and unwind. Claire's calligraphy can be found at Claire launched the English Wedding Blog in November 2009 - it's been a top 10 UK wedding blog ever since, with a regional focus we hope you LOVE.



  • Don’t worry-most brides go through this phase! Hang in there! It’ll be here in no time and then you’ll be so excited again!

  • Claire
    9 years ago

    Oh Salma – I’ve heard similar stories many times, you’re not alone: I think Wedding Limbo is an apt way to describe that feeling… as with any exciting event you plan for ages, there’s a time when you just wish it was happening / done and dusted. And because weddings can get so huge, the feeling’s multiplied.

    But… your body’s been poorly twice recently so your mind gets the knock on effect I think. And planning a wedding is a big job to take on for anyone: it is a stressful time, and you can’t be ‘up’ all the time.

    What I loved most about you when you entered the Star Brides competition was your focus on marriage even more than the wedding day. And in a way, wishing you’d done the wedding and were onto the married bit is still what it’s all about. The main thing? You’re going to get married, and then you’re going to be married, and that will be the most amazing thing.

    On a lighter note… Bless Richard too for being keen about the table plan (and for being excited about the wedding) – I’d definitely grab the opportunity to delegate the seating arrangements while you can!

  • Salma
    9 years ago

    Yeah, I often say to Richard ‘I wish we were married already. All I want to do is live happily ever after with you!’ These days he is so excited it’s so sweet – I’m sure our excitement will collide soon enough!

    I just had to turn off Friends on E4 (which I never watch but there’s nothing on tonight) because it started with Monica shouting ‘FOUR WEEKS UNTIL WE GET MARRIED!’ And I was like URRRRGGGHHH! Ha.

    Also in my poisoned stupor last night all I dreamt of was food in our venue and I’m really wary of it right now! That’ll teach me to be enthusiastic about trying new foods. Stupid oyster.

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