The lovely Josie from Savoir Weddings sent me this guest blog post for English Wedding, and I’ve saved it for the beginning of the week because I think it’s a great reminder, and really sound advice to carry through the week with you. If you’ve had a busy weekend of wedding planning, or if your to do list is getting you down, this one’s for you.
Wedding planning is notoriously stressful. Even people who haven’t got married before know that. It’s the place where the dreadful ‘bridezilla’ concept emerged from.
Even if you’re lucky enough to have a completely drama free planning process, you will still have to deal with many issues you may not have had to face before. How to divide your wedding budget, what type of dress to go for, how on earth to choose what kind of food to serve.
There are endless choices to face – and you’re well aware your decisions will be loud and proud on your big day – in front of all the people you care about no less. No pressure then.
Now obviously as a wedding planner and stylist I’m all in favour of a little professional help when wedding planning. Fear not though, this post isn’t going to turn all self promoting. The reason I wanted to write about this is because I want to do the exact opposite of what I do when planning a client’s wedding and strip away the details to the bare bones.
No worrying about seating plans, floral arrangements, and DIY details. Screw it all. It doesn’t matter.
Wow. I can guess what you’re thinking. A wedding planner saying your wedding plans don’t matter. That’s a risky little game. Except I haven’t gone totally mad. What I’m attempting to do is to highlight the whole point of a wedding in the first place. Something that can get a little lost during the months of wedding planning. You and your other half are making a statement and telling the world, ( most importantly obviously friends and family) that you love each other.
It really is that simple.
I know weddings and marriages are complex and I know I’m making generalisations here, but I’m assuming every one of you planning a wedding is doing so out of overwhelming-shout out loud-I won’t feel like this about anyone else-love.
You’re spending possibly more money than you’ve spent before on a, well, party for want of a better word. And you’re doing it because you love your partner and want to celebrate this with the other people you love and who love you.
Okay so I know that you know this in essence but that doesn’t mean you want to waste money, or throw an un-stylish do, or have a day that doesn’t represent you. As a wedding planner it goes without saying that I know how important the little and large details are. I just think from time to time during your wedding planning process it’s a good idea to take yourself off alone or with your partner and remind yourself what this is all about. It will help you gain perspective and keep your head at times when those around you are losing theirs.
I know from my clients how easy it can be to get sucked into the wedding world. Perfectly sane women start stressing that their bridesmaids’ dresses are a shade lighter than their shoes. Or quietly obsessing whilst lying in bed at night that the venue isn’t quite as magical as the one you imagined yourself marrying in when you were a little girl.
I guess this somewhat rambly post is essentially a reminder that whilst wedding planning can arouse a million different emotions from joy to fear to anxiety and back again, you are lucky enough to be marrying the person you want to spend the rest of your life with and that is pretty damn amazing.
Thank you, Josie! Wise words indeed.
I know Josie didn’t want this to be a promotional post, but I have to link to her wedding planning website – who wouldn’t want a wedding planner with a real, honest, genuine sense of perspective like Josie’s! www.SavoirWeddings.com