I’ve just read an intriguing blog post on Ask Dr. Bride, all about a ‘new’ species of bride called the Hy’bride.
Hy’brides are resourceful, internet-savvy brides who plan their own weddings, putting individuality, creativity and low costs above everything else.
It’s really made me think: the article sees the hy’bride as a threat to the wedding professional, even asking if wedding suppliers are going to become extinct!
Are you a hy’bride?
The hy’bride (I’m assuming a play on words here: hybrid) is a bride who has access to information and inspiration online so much so that she doesn’t need wedding professionals. She’s resourceful and independent, inventive and most importantly very budget conscious. Planners, stationers, wedding florists and specialists are – it would seem – no longer needed, as far as the hy’bride is concerned.
Dr. Bride writes a fascinating article, and I’d recommend you read it – it’s very thought provoking. I quote, “Most hy’brides think that doing things their own way will be less expensive and less of a hassle; but at what cost? When did Peace of mind become a luxury engaged couples think they can’t afford?”
Dr. Bride goes on to say that last minute panics and mistakes are common, plenty of brides “bite off more than they can chew” and become overwhelmed, and 2 weeks before the wedding “they are scrambling to find a wedding professional to clean up the mess“.
Really?!! Well it doesn’t have to be this way! If you really embrace the idea of creating your own unique wedding, it can be easy to manage your time and money.
The secret to planning your alternative wedding
The future of weddings is individuality and low cost, just as Dr. Bride says. But to make it work you have to be 100% behind the idea – it’s all about forgetting the traditional wedding and doing things your own way.
If you want a conventional wedding
If you still want all the traditional trimmings, a sit-down meal at a big venue with lavishly decorated tables, favours, a receiving line and a toastmaster to mention just a few – then you’d be wise to hire a wedding planner.
Planning an entire wedding is a big project, there’s no doubt about that. And it doesn’t mean you can’t have an alternative and personal day – try a wedding planner like Boho Weddings & Events who specialises in alternative weddings.
If you’re reinventing the wedding, your way!
But if you’d rather create something unique and truly special, you need to think very creatively. Forget every wedding you’ve ever been to, forget what your family is expecting from your wedding. If an alternative wedding is your dream, the people who love you won’t be expecting a meringue and an uber-pretty bouquet of pink roses anyway.
I think wedding bloggers have really driven the whole hy’bride concept. The unique weddings you see on blogs are always inspiring, but it’s important to remember to take only the bits you love and can afford from a wedding blog.
If you can plan a wedding around a few key details… for example an unusual black wedding dress, an intimate ceremony and a candlelit dinner – then being a hy’bride will be wonderful for you. Keep the organising to a minimum, and you’ll have a gorgeous stress-free wedding. No last minute panics, and you won’t need to call in a wedding planner to save your sanity!
The hy’bride and the wedding industry
And as for wedding professionals becoming extinct… no way! We only need to change our expectations and follow the lead of the hy’brides. They’re innovative, inspiring and creative women – as we should all be.
Part of being a wedding professional is creativity. We have the most fabulous job in the world – we design, come up with concepts, transform beads, ribbons, fabrics, church halls, you name it – into something beautiful. We have to think on our feet so the arrival of the hy’bride should be a new challenge.
I mentioned Boho Weddings above. Kelly is the perfect wedding planner to demonstrate what I mean. She specialises in alternative weddings, and even tailors her services for the hy’bride: have a look at her Partial Planning package – completely flexible help with your wedding planning if and when you need it.
As a calligrapher I’m always happy and surprised there is still a demand for calligraphy on wedding invitations. It’s a very traditional art – I suppose the whole vintage trend has worked for me! But if and when people stop posting paper wedding invitations, I’m really looking forward to learning about using digital calligraphy and graphic design to create email invitations – which will cost a fraction of the price for the hy’bride!
So in answer to Dr. Bride – don’t worry, the wedding professional won’t become extinct! Hy’brides will keep us on our toes and there are some really exciting changes ahead for those of us who’ll happily adapt our businesses to meet new challenges.
Do read the full article on the Hy’Bride concept over at Ask Dr. Bride – and share your responses here. What do you think? Are you a hy’bride?