For any newly engaged couple, the excitement of this magical time is captivating. So many ideas, so many resources, so many influences to take into account and all for one day.
With all these new and exciting stimuli it’s easy for the bride to become consumed in the detail and logistics of the wedding and for the groom’s voice to become lost.
This is the same story that happens with many couples and was repeated in our case.
My husband and I have known each other since we were 2 years old and are very lucky to be best friends and partners in every sense of the word, but when it comes to weddings normality went out the window.
As part of my dream job organising events and weddings, I should have known better, but as we started planning the wedding I became completely immersed in the detail and I had not thought how to make Leigh stand out in the wedding party and also be the centre of the attention with me on our wedding day.
There are a huge amount of resources for brides and grooms, but not for couples to manage the process jointly. Grooms may not have strong ideas about colours, favour ideas or ribbon choices. Grooms may not be acting as Bridezilla or wake up worrying about meticulous detail. But grooms are still nervous and excited about their big day. Grooms want to enable their gorgeous fiancée to have the day of her dreams and also to feel a part of their big day.
It is so important that right at the start of the planning process ideas from both the bride and groom are taken into account. At myriad genii this is at the heart of how we start working with our clients planning their big day, by finding out what both parties want. As a husband and wife team we have the ability to understand the bride and groom’s mentality enabling everyone to bring their ideas into the wedding plan and make sure that there is a strong presence of both the bride and groom on the wedding day.
If you are not looking to use a wedding planner then it is really important that right from the beginning you both start to listen to what each person wants in their wedding day. One idea to achieve this is to write down a list of questions for both people to answer such as “What is your ideal size of wedding?” or “Do you want a formal or informal wedding?” Then go into separate rooms and really think about what you want before answering.
Once this is done come back together and go through the answers, over a nice bottle of wine would be good. Make sure that you really listen to each others answers, without ridicule or dismissal or it could be a very short engagement!!
Compromise – this was one of the teachings in our wedding lessons and it is so important in wedding preparations. You don’t have to compromise on your dream wedding, but it is a union of two people and the wedding may well reflect and celebrate a union of two styles.
Thanks to Laura from Hampshire based myriad genii occasions for submitting this article.
